scottbtdmb
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Good evening Brothers,
I have posted so infrequently over the past 6 months that I wanted to check in. Seems to be a lot of new folks on here these days, which is really exciting, as well as some of the long-time BoB'ers that I have come to know and love over the years.
Going through a real tough family crisis right now. My grandmother was just diagnosed with pancreatic cancer this past Monday. Her and my grandfather came up to my parents' house for Mother's Day and we all knew something wasn't right with her. She was extremely jaundiced, skin as yellow as can be, and her eyes were the color of a lemon. She had little to no equlibrium/balance and my grandfather said she had been sleeping all the time for the past couple weeks and not eating. For some reason or another, he was going through some major denial and thought she was just having a bad couple of weeks. Full disclosure, she has also been suffering from dementia for the past 5-10 years so I suppose she couldn't necessarily verbalize how she was feeling properly for him to diagnose the situation.
We were able to talk him into taking her to the hospital, only to reason the terrible news late Monday evening. This is a complete and utter shock to my system. I have a very small (but close) family, with my parents, brother, grandparents (dad's side) and an uncle (dad's brother) making up my immediate family. I am 32 and am blessed to still have 2 grandparents alive (never knew my mom's parents), but it is so hard because honestly I have never lost anyone close to me. Numerous emotions are going through my mind as the inevitable loss looms closer and closer. I understand pancreatic cancer is a nasty cancer towards the end, which makes it even tougher.
Anyone on here go through a similar experience? It's tough, but I do understand that as I get into my 30's, such events are going to happen. I only hope I can be strong enough to help see my father and grandfather get through it okay, as I know that they are hurting much more than I am. I had my own health issues this year due to excessive weight gain, which in turn caused heart palpitations and high blood pressure. I have finally got myself back to decent health and now this has to happen! Sucks how life always throws you a curveball. Any advice/shared experiences would be much appreciated from my Brothers.
Thanks,
Scott
I have posted so infrequently over the past 6 months that I wanted to check in. Seems to be a lot of new folks on here these days, which is really exciting, as well as some of the long-time BoB'ers that I have come to know and love over the years.
Going through a real tough family crisis right now. My grandmother was just diagnosed with pancreatic cancer this past Monday. Her and my grandfather came up to my parents' house for Mother's Day and we all knew something wasn't right with her. She was extremely jaundiced, skin as yellow as can be, and her eyes were the color of a lemon. She had little to no equlibrium/balance and my grandfather said she had been sleeping all the time for the past couple weeks and not eating. For some reason or another, he was going through some major denial and thought she was just having a bad couple of weeks. Full disclosure, she has also been suffering from dementia for the past 5-10 years so I suppose she couldn't necessarily verbalize how she was feeling properly for him to diagnose the situation.
We were able to talk him into taking her to the hospital, only to reason the terrible news late Monday evening. This is a complete and utter shock to my system. I have a very small (but close) family, with my parents, brother, grandparents (dad's side) and an uncle (dad's brother) making up my immediate family. I am 32 and am blessed to still have 2 grandparents alive (never knew my mom's parents), but it is so hard because honestly I have never lost anyone close to me. Numerous emotions are going through my mind as the inevitable loss looms closer and closer. I understand pancreatic cancer is a nasty cancer towards the end, which makes it even tougher.
Anyone on here go through a similar experience? It's tough, but I do understand that as I get into my 30's, such events are going to happen. I only hope I can be strong enough to help see my father and grandfather get through it okay, as I know that they are hurting much more than I am. I had my own health issues this year due to excessive weight gain, which in turn caused heart palpitations and high blood pressure. I have finally got myself back to decent health and now this has to happen! Sucks how life always throws you a curveball. Any advice/shared experiences would be much appreciated from my Brothers.
Thanks,
Scott