ontariopiper
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Hey ladies and gents,
As the post title suggests, I've been wondering if everyone, male or female, should be afforded a personal space somewhere for the pursuit of hobbies, projects or time-wasting of a personal nature. Do you have a den, shed, workshop or other comfortable space in which to pursue your hobbies or just relax? Do you/can you enjoy your pipe in your space?
My answer is a qualified yes. I have a room in our basement that I carved out of the larger space when we renovated years ago. That's my room for my stuff, and everybody else knows it and stays out. Not that I'm draconian about it - my wife and kids come in all the time to visit - but it's primarily my space. I can't smoke in it, though, as there's no ventilation and I'd stink up the entire house. Not gonna happen. So instead I insulated the garage and installed a shop heater and an exhaust fan. That's where I enjoy a bowl when it's too cold to sit out in the back yard. So far this winter it's been ok, with only a few really cold days to suffer through or abstain. I'd like to throw up some stud walls and be able to heat the shop space properly year round, but that's a project for another day.
My wife is not particularly supportive of my pipes, though she has chosen not to make a federal case of it as long as I don't smoke them around her or our teenage girls. We've reached an unspoken agreement, and I'm ok with that. I figure after 22 years together and 2 kids, if a bit of pipe smoke is all she's got to complain about, I'm doing ok.
I have been encouraging my wife to take over our spare bedroom as HER space. I suspect her ideal space would look more like a Zen garden or spa, and mine would look more like a classic English club room, but to each his/her own! I think a bit of personal space is a good thing for a relationship. When a partnership is new, the couple tends to "cocoon" a bit, focussing energy on being together, doing things together, etc. As we approach another anniversary, my wife and I are starting to value time apart doing things we're interested in individually. That way we've got new stories to tell each other at dinner.
Your thoughts?
As the post title suggests, I've been wondering if everyone, male or female, should be afforded a personal space somewhere for the pursuit of hobbies, projects or time-wasting of a personal nature. Do you have a den, shed, workshop or other comfortable space in which to pursue your hobbies or just relax? Do you/can you enjoy your pipe in your space?
My answer is a qualified yes. I have a room in our basement that I carved out of the larger space when we renovated years ago. That's my room for my stuff, and everybody else knows it and stays out. Not that I'm draconian about it - my wife and kids come in all the time to visit - but it's primarily my space. I can't smoke in it, though, as there's no ventilation and I'd stink up the entire house. Not gonna happen. So instead I insulated the garage and installed a shop heater and an exhaust fan. That's where I enjoy a bowl when it's too cold to sit out in the back yard. So far this winter it's been ok, with only a few really cold days to suffer through or abstain. I'd like to throw up some stud walls and be able to heat the shop space properly year round, but that's a project for another day.
My wife is not particularly supportive of my pipes, though she has chosen not to make a federal case of it as long as I don't smoke them around her or our teenage girls. We've reached an unspoken agreement, and I'm ok with that. I figure after 22 years together and 2 kids, if a bit of pipe smoke is all she's got to complain about, I'm doing ok.
I have been encouraging my wife to take over our spare bedroom as HER space. I suspect her ideal space would look more like a Zen garden or spa, and mine would look more like a classic English club room, but to each his/her own!
I think a bit of personal space is a good thing for a relationship. When a partnership is new, the couple tends to "cocoon" a bit, focussing energy on being together, doing things together, etc. As we approach another anniversary, my wife and I are starting to value time apart doing things we're interested in individually. That way we've got new stories to tell each other at dinner. Your thoughts?
