RSteve
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I spoke with a young friend this morning. I know him from volunteer work that I did where he was a staff supervisor. Before I was a volunteer, my late wife volunteered, starting in 2002. We were invited to his wedding. At the time he was 26-years-old; his bride, "Jack Benny" 39. I didn't really know her, but she was very pretty and "put together" very well, and from a very affluent family.
Last year, pre-pandemic, my friend said the marriage was on the rocks. He was about 44-45 and his wife was mid 50s. I'd seen her and thought she'd aged badly, was quite heavy, with a very age lined face. My friend said his wife had become increasingly anti-social and reclusive and following her menopause became quite domineering. He'd had enough of taking orders.
Apparently, she fought the divorce, albeit unsuccessfully. She said, at the time of their marriage, that she waited to marry until she was older because she didn't like or want children and they have none.
Since March of last year, contact with my friend has only been an occasional text, just enough to keep in touch. I knew he'd begun to date, but didn't know if there was anything serious.
Today, I learned that he has a girlfriend in her mid-30s, divorced with two elementary school aged kids and they're living together.
He says he's never been happier and loves being a quasi-stepdad. He says both he and the girlfriend have had enough of marriage, so marriage won't happen, but they will draw up revocable contracts pertaining to health directives and power of attorney.
While I'm happy for him, I do feel badly for his ex.
Is it my imagination or do most women have major personality changes post menopause?
Last year, pre-pandemic, my friend said the marriage was on the rocks. He was about 44-45 and his wife was mid 50s. I'd seen her and thought she'd aged badly, was quite heavy, with a very age lined face. My friend said his wife had become increasingly anti-social and reclusive and following her menopause became quite domineering. He'd had enough of taking orders.
Apparently, she fought the divorce, albeit unsuccessfully. She said, at the time of their marriage, that she waited to marry until she was older because she didn't like or want children and they have none.
Since March of last year, contact with my friend has only been an occasional text, just enough to keep in touch. I knew he'd begun to date, but didn't know if there was anything serious.
Today, I learned that he has a girlfriend in her mid-30s, divorced with two elementary school aged kids and they're living together.
He says he's never been happier and loves being a quasi-stepdad. He says both he and the girlfriend have had enough of marriage, so marriage won't happen, but they will draw up revocable contracts pertaining to health directives and power of attorney.
While I'm happy for him, I do feel badly for his ex.
Is it my imagination or do most women have major personality changes post menopause?
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