I'm really nervous.

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Growley":dy78co5x said:
I got married young and stayed married. I've been married for 15 years and wouldn't have it any other way. The best way to go into it isn't to think about how "she completes you", but how you can love and serve her.
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Where is Marty (LIPipe) when you need him?

But seriously, best of luck, Zach. You sound like an excellent pair!
 
s.ireland":menj9ptx said:
scotties22":menj9ptx said:
The "married" part really doesn't matter. If that is going to change your relationship at all, then she isn't the one.
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I couldn't agree more. The way you feel about eachother is what really matters.

Of course there's nothing wrong with making it official!
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True. My decade's been spent unofficial for obvious reasons, and we don't even care. There is, however, something about looking into the face of someone who knows you so well and have been through so much and say, "You're the one."

8)
 
Hey, here is my .02$, for what its worth. Being married is the hardest job you will ever have. But if you do it right you won't regret a minute of it. I have been busting my ass for 29+ years and my wife has been doing the same.
We have 4 awesome kids and I am still the luckiest bastard in the world.

I proposed to her 4 months after we went out for the first time and we were married 6 months after that. It hasn't always been fun but it has always been worth it.

Be brave, if you love her take the plunge. You won't regret it. :bom:
 
scotties22":qdkoo2gp said:
My husband and I have been together for 10 years and married for 4 1/2. I really don't know why we waited so long to get married. We dated for a month before he got trasnfered from OKC to KC and asked me to come with him....best thing I EVER did. The "married" part really doesn't matter. If that is going to change your relationship at all, then she isn't the one. I understand the social pressures to tie the knot, I was raised Southern Baptist. There really is no need to rush things if you are comfortable with eachother. Enjoy yourselves and get all the vacations to exotic places out of the way before you have a couple of babies and can't fit them in anymore (I speak from experience). BOY...did I just sound like "Debbie Downer" or what??? Good thing I'm the woman here, huh? :D

What an amazing man you must be....she is one lucky girl.
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Listen to the lady, she knows whereof she speaks ! Love is fun, enjoy it :p
 
Thank you all. You're very inspiring and helpful.

I'm an incredibly caring guy. Mum always said I was the kid who wore his heart on his sleeve. I (Being young makes it shocking, I know) have yet to be in a relationship where I have felt I was cared about as much as I cared. Until this gal. She legitimately takes care of me, and I do my damned hardest to do the same. Her and I are always doing something together. We make it a point to cook together every night, and eat together every night. Her and I take the dog out for a walk in the dark every night so I can have a pipe and we can chat. We are always having fun. For instance I wanted to send her to bed laughing so I showered, got out and (since I am unable to grow a decent one) drew on a small Gomez Addams mustache, kicked open to door and propped my arm against the door frame in nothing but a towel. Than I walked back into the bathroom, and returned sporting a "Cop-stache" and with a serious face and aviators wrote her a ticket for successfully seducing a police officer. I did about 8 mustaches in total and she died of laughter and thought it was hilarious until I wore a fu man chu and started karate kicking the dog around the room.

This girl is so caring, so motherly, so kind, smarter than me (not too difficult I know, HAHAHA.....ha...) and so gosh darn beautiful it isn't funny. All these reasons are why I proudly wear my Claddagh ring that she sat me down, told me how much she loved me and cared for me, and made sure I felt the same to slip onto my finger to show that I adore her. Sure she gets upset at me, and I get upset at her, she won't let me purchase any new tobacco until I've smoked half of what I have despite my tobacco slut phase being in full blast (HELP! SEND TOBACCO!) but I've never been more willing to work anything out to fix it. And I now know she is the same.

I understand marriage isn't any easy thing, but like I say, I've never been more willing to work for something in my life. (Except for a Savinelli Hercules 510 EX). I am a non-denominational God-fearing, loving Christian but I came closer to God in a Southern Baptist Church. I feel no social pressure to marry her, nor do I want strength in titles. I just feel it right to marry and be with the girl I love as husband and wife, to have and to hold, to love and to cherish. And it's only a matter of time before it happens. She's absolutely amazing. And I can't wait to sit in a rocking chair drinking lemonade with her on hot summer days on our front porch watching kids play (I'm smoking a pipe, and looking damn good in this vision). If anyone wants to make me a pair of Briar Engagement rings one size 7.5 with a stone in it and the other size 11 this whole shindig will go off sooner. I love this woman. Thank you all for the support and kind words of encouragement and experience.

Zach






 
Ah she looks gorgeous Zach, and sounds like a really great lady. I hope you two get all the happiness out of life you deserve.

You're a lucky guy. Her? Not so much... Maybe its the sleazy pornstar moustache you're rocking there, I'm not sure. :)
 
Zack - she stuck with you through the Bombing, so she's definitely a keeper. :lol:



My wife and I have been married for 11.5 years. We were together for almost 2 years before we got married, me not wanting to rush into anything too quickly.

If I had it to do over again, then I'd just get to do it all over again. No regrets, no second thoughts. I knew that I'd found the right person and wanted her to be mine. She felt the same way about me, and neither of us have been sorry.


You sound quite sure that she's the right person for you, and she obviously feels the same about you. Though this might sound contradictory - don't rush into it, but don't wait too long either...



You've got a keeper there, Brother! Congrats! 8)

 
Sounds like I might be in the minority. I knew I wanted to marry my wife after two weeks of dating. That was nine years and four kids ago. We met and married in eight months. Don't use that as a yardstick for anything other than 'once you know' there's not much point in waiting. Takes some longer than others to figure that part out and that's just fine. Just enjoy life together and have fun before you have kids.Your both pretty young. Do the crazy stuff before the kids :).

Good luck!
 
Hmm... now I'm really confused. Never mind, I must have missed something, it wouldn't be the first time!

All the best to the two of you regardless

Edit: Ah I see now, I get it. Yeah, I knew she wasn't a guy... but her luck remains questionable ;)
 
I was with her since 17, married at 19, been married three years this october. Been ruff having a kid at this age, we fight from time to time but not at each other, more about money then anything. We still keep strong and I love her with all my heart. I say take the plunge if you can and have the means. We were planning on getting married before she got pregnant and had been talking about it a good while. When she got pregnant we decided to go ahead and jump into it. Don't regret a single moment, but if I had the choice I would have got married sooner so it didn't look like we did it just for the child because that was definitely not the reason we did it.

Oh and the booty doesn't stop when you get married, just when you have a two year old to chase after all the time. :lol:

Good luck and the best of wishes.
 
I dig this thread, and I'll tell you why.

Love and relationships can be a beautiful thing. Unfortunately, good ones these days are rare as hen's teeth.

I had no idea what I was getting myself into when I first met my better half, now of ten years. There's been (and will be!) plenty of fun, our share of fights, and we've learned to be better people because of the nature of our relationship. Two people together need to understand there is no such thing as a "perfect relationship." You accept the good with the bad, and the strong move past that and grow stronger. I hate to even think I'd ever, EVER become someone that is "co-dependent," yet this notion is different than being part of a true pairing with another human being. I think I said it before, but no one "completes" you, you complete yourself, whether or not you're with someone. They cannot change you, nor you them...you simply share life, and that's the biggest gift you can ask for when being with another person. Life is dynamic, and both people must adapt if they truly want harmony. This is also different than that word "compromise," which might come up from time to time (yet should never be a power play on one another).

Only experience will really allow you to understand what I'm saying, Zach. She sounds great. Enjoy your time with her, and if she's the one, then she's the one. Sometimes you know right away, but in my case, it was something that built up naturally. It's never forced. It just happens. Some sooner, some later, some never at all.

It's the way it is. I've had my heart broken by lack of returned love too many times, too. When someone recognizes you for you, loves you, and really sees and knows you...it's pretty cool

Much luck, and I personally enjoy your budding relationship and stories. It's refreshing and real.

Be good to each other, always.

8)

 
We married at 19 and celebrated our 20th this year.

I hate to even think I'd ever, EVER become someone that is "co-dependent,"
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Forget "co-dependent". I would truly be a mindless mess without her. :heart:
 
Best of luck to the both of you.

This october will be 13 years of happy marriage for me and the misses. We are each others rock.
 
So many congratulations in my heart, especially as the love is there; otherwise I would be writing about the great misery-to-come.

I wish you years and years of happiness. Marriage is frightening but don't let that deter you: your heart says that you can live lovingly with her; everything you've written about her has turned on your heart; that single sign is so very good.
 
I've known my wife since we were fifteen years old. We started as friends, then good friends and finally best friends. After high school, she went to college and I went in to the Marines as a couple. Four years of being apart had ups and downs but we made it through. Married at 25 and picked up the same job together for another four years constantly together morning, noon, and night (a truer test of compatibly has never been conceived). In that time we have figured out a few things that might help any couple that wants to get romantically involved.

#1 Trust - It's very hard to love some one you don't trust. Hard to build, easy to lose, lack of trust is why most relationships fail.

#2 Communication - No one is a mind reader. Trust your partner enough to be able to say what is on your mind without fear. Can't build trust without talking, another relationship deal breaker.

#3 Attraction - Keep the spark of love alive. Romantic relationships are hard work and sending flowers to her work for no reason for all of her co-workers to see will keep that spark bright and hot when the night is darkest. Remind her why she loves you every now and again.

#4 Learn how to argue without fighting - got nothing for you on this one. Every couple needs to figure this one out on their own, but it could save a marriage when "who's turn to take out the garbage" becomes the prime reason for divorce.


We learned all of this the very hard way. Through easy and hard times my wife and I can agree to disagree, give and take and all that mushy stuff. But, in the end I'm a better man for being married to her and she feels the same. I hope that you have the type of relationship that I enjoy with my wife without all the hardships that comes with it, but hardship is the true test of a relationship/marriage and makes it stronger.

What say you?
 
You know when you know . . .

Met my wife on a blind date in Feb and in Sept that same year we got married in Jamaica on the beach. Celebrating 17 years in 2 weeks at Topsail Island, NC. She is my best friend and we have been through a lot together, both good times and hard times. Makes it all easier doing it together.
 
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