Beetle, I rather like the relights! They're actually quite nice, called "DGT" by those purposefully seeking the experience. Then again, I like the "dregs" at the bottom of the bowl when smoking, too... good stuff. :twisted:
The only time I mess with ash is in particularly tall/narrow chambers that concentrate ash buildup onto the surface of where the tobacco is supposed to take a light to the point where it will not fire up. I will, very gently, take the sharp edge of the pipe nail, loosen the top layer of ash, dump it out (also very gently), re-tamp (very gently) and resume. All's well afterward.
Relights are not only part of the experience, they can be enjoyable.
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