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For over a decade I've been pissing and moaning about being alone. My wife died in 2008 after an horrendous 5-year battle with metastatic breast cancer. I didn't even think about meeting another woman until about 2011. That was for a couple of reasons: I was still suffering the shock of her illness and death, plus I thought any less than a three year wait was disrespectful to my wife's memory and to my daughters.

About two years ago, one of my daughters in cahoots with the other daughter, registered me for a dating site for old people. About every day, I get an email with photos of old ladies who live within the Mpls.-St. Paul metro area. I read descriptions and press "pass." Only once did I respond to an inquiry from a woman. She looked lovely; was well educated; had positive relations with her adult children; yada...yada.

We met to go for a walk. I was rather surprised to see that she was significantly bent and walked with a cane. Her photo was apparently at least 15 years old. She had selected where we'd walk. We walked for a bit, passing by a beautiful home with an expansive garden. I commented that the landscaping looked to be the work of skilled professionals. And she replied, "No, I did it all myself. This was the home where I lived with my husband before the divorce." (And this is where she's taking me on tour?) I told her after an hour of chit chat, somewhat gently, that I thought we were not a good match.

I have dated a few women via friends' introductions and I have consented a few times to be an escort to a wedding or official occasion.

Within the last couple of hours, my older daughter stopped by to check on me. I thanked her for her concern and foolishly said, "It's not easy being sick, in pain, and alone." To which she replied, "You've had innumerable opportunities to meet a nice woman. You know that in your age group in the Twin Cities women outnumber men 4 to 1." And stupid ass me replied, "All those ladies on that website where you signed me up look old and dried up."
"Daddy, you really think you look any different?"
And that, my friends, really hurt.


although I think it's kind of funny
 

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Only advice I can offer is don't give up. I was married for 20 years. Ended in an amicable divorce. I was on dating sites, met some nice women and some like the one you described. Must have had 500 first dates. Had 3 fairly long term relationships but not the kind I wanted forever. That change 7 years ago. Met my wife for a coffee date that lasted 5 hours. Took her dancing the following weekend and we've been together ever since. As the old saying goes, you gotta kiss a few frogs before you find the princess.
 

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I was married for 20 years. Ended in an amicable divorce.
My first marriage lasted four years, together seven. The divorce was a surprise, particularly because the year before she filed she drained our bank and investment accounts of $247,000 in 2020 dollars. I was running a radio/TV station in another state during that year. While I was gone, she capitalized. I didn't know anything about a divorce until I went to pay my rent and was told that the last check was returned, "CLOSED ACCOUNT." The accounts were joint and there was nothing I could do. Lesson learned, no more joint accounts, ever.

Second marriage and my daughters, 31 years until my wife's passing. I am very close to both daughters, their spouses, and my grandchildren and that chases away a lot of women.

These available old gals want to travel the world, but most are living on Social Security, and y'all know what that means. I have learned one thing for sure about the internet dating sites. (actually far more than one) the more age spot, stretch mark cleavage these gals show the less likely that they have two nickels to rub together.
 

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Yep, it's a jungle out there. A lot of cougars who turn out to be hyenas.
 

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Yep, it's a jungle out there. A lot of cougars who turn out to be hyenas.
and old mares already ridden hard and renting a box stall to live in.
I always find it very funny when these 70+ year-old-women say in their description that they're not interested in hook-ups. Do they really think the 75-80 year-old-guys who might consider dating them are after their bodies? Most of us would prefer a hearty and delicious bowl of soup.
 
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and old mares already ridden hard and renting a box stall to live in.
I always find it very funny when these 70+ year-old-women say in their description that they're not interested in hook-ups. Do they really think the 75-80 year-old-guys who might consider dating them are after their bodies? Most of us would prefer a hearty and delicious bowl of soup.
Well if you ever figure out how women think, you will make a fortune, lol.
 
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