LIPIPE
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Guys...all of us are or were in this all together at one time or another. I just read Blackhorse's post from yesterday morning and it brings back painful memories. I worked hard at school to get my degrees and I worked hard to become skilled at my profession. I worked multiple jobs and always gave my best shot to every employer; yet still, I got pink slipped several times. Once I ran a doctors office for three men, two of whom were brothers and who were fighting with each other constantly. One brother accused me of siding with the other and accused me of stealing a computer disc from the office that I was asked to take home each evening for more than a year to safeguard patient accounts in case of a computer meltdown. The night I was terminated I was physically blocked from leaving the office until he inspected my briefcase which I refused to allow. (I did not take the disc that night). I had to call the police who of course arrived to shove the doctor away from my office door and escort me out to my car. The officer arrived, came into my office, and after a WTF conversation told the doctor to be glad he was not dragged out cuffed for his unlawful behavior. Needless to say two days later I was served with a subpoena by that idiot and of course the case never went to a court.
I could go on and on. Blackhorse and I are peers. We both encountered life as it really is. The difference in our work years was that there were no computers and no internet. Job searches were typewritten letters and want ads in the newspaper. The search was more time consuming and more tedious, but the stress at home was always there. My wife went back to work early in our marriage and I was home with a two year old until I relocated. Two more boys came into our lives and jobs began and jobs ended. In another practice three other docs disagreed and I was fired. An office colleague called my home before I even arrived and the news was already blown to my wife the evening before we were to fly to California from NY for a family wedding. On my first job, after 10 years as Senior Assistant Administrator at the Catholic Medical Center of New York the Director of Nursing who was a Dominican nun called my home and also spoke to my wife horrified by what had happened to me. Needless to say that entire 1000 bed hospital system was corrupt and folded. Throughout my professional work years I had self incorporated and did freelance practice management. Because I "had a business" I was ineligible for unemployment insurance. Thankfully I had a part-time evening job teaching so I had health insurance from the New School University.
The work-a-day shit only ends when we reach our 60's and then we can retire and tell all employers to go and fnck themselves. Until then we have to take the lumps, know we are not at fault, and move on the the next opportunity. The economy now is bad and there are no good jobs. Romney and Bain Capital are poster boy and classic example of what is bound to happen on any day to any working man; blue collar or professional. When it happens, family and friends need to stick by and give support, encouragement, and also afford privacy. Wives need to understand also and there needs to be a family plan. Savings need to be amassed, retirement plans should not be touched and both husband and wife need to develop careers, have equal responsibility as partners to work inside and outside of the home so that when one spouse stumbles the other one is there to hold up the family. Health insurance also must be maintained.
My wife and I never allowed ourselves expensive vacations, expensive clothes, expensive cars, or expensive home furnishings. We never lost sight of what's important. What's important is your marriage, your family, and your security. Hang tough, and your next job will come along. Understand and accept the fact that it gets you from point A to point B and it too will end. When you get to your golden years you retire to your porch, smoke your pipe, relax, and worry for your children. You hope their opportunities are better for them than your's were for you and you are grateful that you don't have to go out to look for another job.
Sorry for this rant but I needed to write it. Rob and others....I feel your pain and I am sorry that you too are reliving my life experiences.
I could go on and on. Blackhorse and I are peers. We both encountered life as it really is. The difference in our work years was that there were no computers and no internet. Job searches were typewritten letters and want ads in the newspaper. The search was more time consuming and more tedious, but the stress at home was always there. My wife went back to work early in our marriage and I was home with a two year old until I relocated. Two more boys came into our lives and jobs began and jobs ended. In another practice three other docs disagreed and I was fired. An office colleague called my home before I even arrived and the news was already blown to my wife the evening before we were to fly to California from NY for a family wedding. On my first job, after 10 years as Senior Assistant Administrator at the Catholic Medical Center of New York the Director of Nursing who was a Dominican nun called my home and also spoke to my wife horrified by what had happened to me. Needless to say that entire 1000 bed hospital system was corrupt and folded. Throughout my professional work years I had self incorporated and did freelance practice management. Because I "had a business" I was ineligible for unemployment insurance. Thankfully I had a part-time evening job teaching so I had health insurance from the New School University.
The work-a-day shit only ends when we reach our 60's and then we can retire and tell all employers to go and fnck themselves. Until then we have to take the lumps, know we are not at fault, and move on the the next opportunity. The economy now is bad and there are no good jobs. Romney and Bain Capital are poster boy and classic example of what is bound to happen on any day to any working man; blue collar or professional. When it happens, family and friends need to stick by and give support, encouragement, and also afford privacy. Wives need to understand also and there needs to be a family plan. Savings need to be amassed, retirement plans should not be touched and both husband and wife need to develop careers, have equal responsibility as partners to work inside and outside of the home so that when one spouse stumbles the other one is there to hold up the family. Health insurance also must be maintained.
My wife and I never allowed ourselves expensive vacations, expensive clothes, expensive cars, or expensive home furnishings. We never lost sight of what's important. What's important is your marriage, your family, and your security. Hang tough, and your next job will come along. Understand and accept the fact that it gets you from point A to point B and it too will end. When you get to your golden years you retire to your porch, smoke your pipe, relax, and worry for your children. You hope their opportunities are better for them than your's were for you and you are grateful that you don't have to go out to look for another job.
Sorry for this rant but I needed to write it. Rob and others....I feel your pain and I am sorry that you too are reliving my life experiences.
